I was thinking the other day that, if God had a ‘primary’ love language, it would probably be Prayer.
Many of you have heard about and/or read Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages. The idea behind this book is that we all have a primary ‘love language’ that resonates with us, and therefore, if I want to show someone love, I should do it in a way which ‘connects’ with them. If someone is an ‘acts of service’ person and all I give them is ‘words of affirmation’, those words may fail to fully communicate my love, no matter how sincere they are.
Now, I realize that, as the Scriptures say, “God is Love”. (1 John 4:8). He does not ‘lack’ any of the ‘love languages’, and He is able to communicate His love fully, completely and without our help.
However, God–as a ‘relational’ being–wants to communicate with us. The perfect Heavenly Father wants to connect with us as His children. He wants to communicate His love for us, and He loves when we communicate our love for Him.
This is the way with any good, intimate, growing and vibrant relationship–there is frequent, authentic, and honest communication as a major part of it.
So, how do we communicate with God?
There are many ways–
Worshiping Him–His character, His attributes;
Thanking Him–His actions, His goodness toward us;
Enjoying Him–His beauty, His blessings…
In all of these–and so many more, PRAYER is a major part of it.
Praying is, in essence, communication with our Father. It involves real, honest sharing of what’s on my heart and mind, what my concerns are, what my desires are, etc.
However, real ‘prayer’ also involves listening to God. It involves quieting myself and asking God to clarify His heart, His desire and His will.
Very often, it brings me to a specific Scripture, or a Truth that He wants to emphasize in my life.
Recently, it’s been a lot about the Fatherhood of God, and enjoying that relationship.
As a dad myself, I remember how wonderful and beautiful it was, when my kids were little, to have them snuggle up next to me and pray. Often, I would lead them, but increasingly as they got older, they would express their own thoughts. How wonderful it was for me to hear their young hearts, and hear them praying for their relatives and friends, their concerns, and expressing their love to God.
This childlike communication–innocent, real, and genuine–was beautiful…and that’s exactly what God is looking for from us.
We need not ‘dress it up’ or make it more ‘formal’. We can come to Him without notice, and go freely into His presence* when needed.
The Scriptures say, after all, that “For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God. The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.” The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children.” (Romans 8:14-17)
and again,“Because you are his [children], God sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, the Spirit who calls out, “Abba, Father.” (Galatians 4:6)
The point is that God, in His love and mercy, has adopted us as His children. He wants us to be close to Him.
He wants to knock the walls down between us and Himself. He’s been doing that through Jesus. Hebrews 4: 15-16: “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one [Jesus] who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”
Because of His love and grace, God sent Jesus to pay for our sin.
Because of Jesus we have been forgiven and adopted by faith into God’s family.
Because He is risen and interceding for us, we have access to God.
Let us keep that access going by regular, authentic, honest and deep communication. Your Heavenly Father will love that!
*I’m aware–we’re alwaysin His presence, since God is omnipresent.