About 28 years ago, when Lori and I were planning our wedding, I realized that I had a problem: Lori had always wanted a ‘rainbow themed’ wedding, which meant that she would have 6 attendants dressed in various colors. I needed to have 6 men to join me, but I really only had 2 good friends! Even if I used some of my brothers, I was in need of another attendant! I found one who was a friend to both of us, and he stood in…but it was a little awkward because we weren’t that close.
What makes a ‘friend’?
Many things go in to it: Shared history, similar tastes or interests, shared beliefs…
More than these things, though, I think it’s the knowledge that the other person knows you, accepts you, and loves you–even with your imperfections. A friend looks out for your and your interests, seeking the best for you.
“There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.” (Proverbs 19:24)
If I live that way toward another–accepting, enjoying, encouraging and looking out for, them…then I’m being a good friend.
Sometimes it involves seeking their good, even if it’s uncomfortable. If, for example, they begin to get ‘off track’ in some way, a true friend will care enough to confront and get in their way. Other times, it involves telling them the truth, even if it hurts a little.
“Wounds from a friend can be trusted,but an enemy multiplies kisses.” (Proverbs 27:6)
One thing that a True Friend can do–if that true friend is a Believer in Jesus–is to point them to Jesus. If I care about another and want what’s best for them, I’m going to pray for them and tell them what I’ve discovered–that following Jesus is, in fact, the best path to ‘Life–to the full’ (John 10:10).
This weekend, KCC starts a new series called “Community: It’s Our Middle Name”. We want KCC to be the kind of church in which friends point friends to Jesus. We want one thing that sets us apart to be the fact that we care enough to reach out to others and tell them about Him. We want to share our story of faith, and invite them to experience the same. We certainly don’t do this perfectly, but we keep trying.
This week…this whole series…would be a great opportunity to invite your friends.
If you have a friend who does not have a ‘saving faith’ in Jesus Christ, invite them!
If you have a friend who thinks of ‘church’ and ‘religion’ as dry, crusty and dead, invite them!
If you have a friend who is hurting, needs direction, or feels lost, invite them!
Risky? Sure! They may say no and look at you differently…but if you’ve been a friend to them, that won’t change.
A good friend…a True Friend…will take that chance.
Be that friend this week!